“Head trash.” Most of us have it.
Q: What is it?
A: The negativity that you know is “NOT THE REAL ME” … but it’s still there… and it’s powerful. Creating emotions that don’t work for you. Creating pessimism and cynicism that doesn’t work for you. Creating justifications for just putting up with the status quo.
Q: Where did it come from?
A: Usually from the world you grew up in. From parents, teachers, coaches, neighbors, siblings, TV, the internet… it often happens without ANY malicious intent on anybody’s part.
Q: Why is it so hard to get rid of? That is, when I make a plan to become more authentic, more positive, more motivated, more optimistic, more persistent… why doesn’t it work? Why does the negativity return?
A: Because it’s “embedded.” Embedding happened long ago, before you were cognitively and emotionally capable of assessing whether particular beliefs would be useful to you. What later was to become your head trash was embedded, again, often without malicious intent, pretty early on. You can test this by noting there are some things that you don’t question, that you don’t want to get rid of, that aren’t head “trash” because they DO WORK well for you. Embedded in me, for example, are these thoughts: “‘Can’t’ never did anything.” “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” These were comments that my parents made whenever one of us kids said, “I can’t.” If those kinds of thoughts are embedded in you as a kid, then as an adult, you would work on “will” and “strategy” in seemingly impossible situations. For me, those embedded beliefs have been “head gold”… not “head trash.” You have some “head gold” too. And those are things to be super grateful for… ‘cause you don’t have to work at getting those thoughts to work for you. They already do.
Q: How do I get rid of my “head trash?”
A: You deliberately and consciously work to embed better belief systems; better thinking.
Q: And how specifically do I do that?
A: Journaling is one of the best methods. Buy a journal and start writing.
Q: I’ve done that before. I do it for a week or a month or something then I get tired of my own thoughts and I quit. I’m like that. What do other people do?
A: First ~ practically everyone quits. Mostly because they can’t come up with new things to journal about. That’s EXACTLY why I created The Prompts Program.